Episode 9

The One About Shame And Guilt

Shame and guilt are two of the topics I get asked to talk about most frequently, so in this episode, I’m delivering!

When we feel feelings of shame, it’s often attached to a feeling of vulnerability, which can often be interpreted as weakness… but we get to flip the script on that. And while guilt is typically less painful than shame (because we see it as being more useful) it can still have a negative impact on our businesses and lives.

In this episode, I’m pulling apart the strands of shame, guilt, vulnerability and judgement and talking about how we can make moves towards a more value filtered life.

Listen on for:

  • What shame and guilt actually are (and what the difference is)
  • How you can alchemise some of those things you feel ashamed of and turn them into superpowers
  • Self-awareness and personal responsibility are where it’s at. Blame does not remove shame!
  • What happens when you go against your (or someone else’s) values
  • How to shift our feelings of shame and guilt
  • Society’s role in our feelings of shame and guilt
  • The distinction between guilt, procrastination and self-sabotage



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Ebonie Allard

I'm Ebonie Allard -Founder of Misfit for Life and Head Coach. I'm a Certified & award winning Master Coach. I am the creator of the 'Misfit to Maven Way' and the 'Value Filter™' system.

I'm a Misfit turned Maven. An Adventurer of life. An Author. An Artist. A Priestess. A Sister. A Friend...

As a teacher, healer and master coach I am passionate about facilitating you in self-actualisation.

I specialise in creating the conditions in which you trust yourself and listen to the inherent wisdom you have within.

I help creative heart-led misfits like you to simplify their lives, and eliminate guilt, shame and fear; allowing you to live your greatest potential and be bolder, freer and happier now!

I know that you crave work that's fulfilling, connected intimate relationships, and time to explore, indulge and express your creativity and authentic expression.

It is my mission to help you live a fully rounded three dimensional, successful and self-governed life.

At my core, I believe that it is your responsibility to shine, to bring your gifts to the world, and to encourage others to do the same.